“The person who wants it does not have it, the person who has it does not want.” This is one phrase that best describes my thoughts on insecurities.

One person is eating voraciously to gain some pounds while another is gradually becoming anorexic—because they are convinced that they gained a few pounds even from sniffing chocolates. So, what one person wants, another desires.

Whether it is our stature or something else, we can all agree that a large number of us feel insecure about one thing or the other. The questions are:

– What do you feel insecure about?
– Why do we feel insecure about it?
– What can you do about it?

I did a quick survey by asking some people what they feel insecure about and their answers ranged from physical attributes like height and body weight to other things like intellectual prowess, inadequacy or not measuring up, and financial insecurities. Again, what is yours and how far is too far when it comes to dealing with it? When it comes to insecurities, the first step is to recognize and own it.

Why do you feel insecure about it? It would interest you to know that what you don’t want or like is someone else’s prayer point or desire. Now, this is not meant to invalidate your feelings or wants, I am just trying to bring your attention to what one of my good friends once told me… “comparison is the thief of joy.” I need you to please pause and ask yourself again, why do I feel insecure about so and so, and am I comparing myself to someone/something else? What is my standard of comparison?

What can you do about your insecurities? Try to work on the ones you can work on, like hitting the gym, making some kind of passive income, reading more, switching careers, to name a few. However, there are certain things or attributes you cannot change; learn to—be at peace with and—accept them.

If you want to do something practical that is awesome, but please don’t feed your insecurities, don’t allow it run your life. I will be talking more about this next week on my podcast episode, so stay tuned.